Archive for January, 2008

Crossing the Line

January 23, 2008

In many ways my training has jaded me – well, all of us, though each in our own way.  By jaded, I mean we can’t understand how some things are not in the consciousness of someone else.

Can you imagine someone not knowing the times table?  Lots of people can’t imagine someone not knowing how to change a tire or boil an egg; we’re all guilty of being jaded, somewhere in our lives.

In my case coaching has made so many notions second nature to me that they are like the times table.  Though, come to think of it,even now I have to think twice about 7×9.  And I realize that being jaded is not inherent, that I’ve been trained and continue to be trained.  So from time to time I will cross the line here and write about coaching. 

The other night was the last session of my current free coaching teleseminar.  This is an extraordinary introduction to coaching.  All coaches (do or should) give you a free introductory session.  I give a free 6-session teleseminar, called Successful Relationships.  Next one starts February 18th [7:30 – 8:30 Eastern]; you can sign up or find out more by emailing Michael Lipp [michael@michaellipp.com]

So – the other night we were speaking about asking for what you want or need.  We went ‘over the lines,’ speaking about both negotiating and dealing with getting complete with people in your life.

These are really deep topics and I’ll come back to them in future blogs.  The main issues are why do we stop ourselves?  Do we ever look at the possible costs versus the possible benefits?  And most of us do not know that there’s a huge difference between being complete and being over.  ‘nuff said for now.

I tell you that these questions of completeness and negotiation are really consistent with my commitments for having us all have spiritual fulfillment, social justice and environmental sustainability.

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Articles on Contribution

January 16, 2008

I’ve written a number of articles on ending hunger, that I’ve sent out to my mailing list – a minute subset of people who could and ought to read them.  So I decided to submit them to a directory of articles, which should get them submitted in e-zines all over the web.

But they all ask you to submit your articles in a category.  There aren’t any categories for contribution.  I couldn’t find one category that might be applicable.  I googled and searched – and finally gave up.  I’ve decided to publish these articles in my blog – in http://MichaelsArticles.wordpress.com

It occurs to me that I can’t be the only one this has happened to… and further occurs that people are being deprived of the opportunity to read about important, pertinent stuff.   My entreprenurial spirit is aroused, as is a burst of indignation.  Send me your thoughts on this —

Masterminding – A Short Session – More on Context

January 3, 2008

Three of us met yesterday – as the holiday travel winnowed our group.  I’ve written elsewhere on its impact and I see I’m not complete with the topic.

The coaching given to me was essentially this:  Please be clear on what you’re up to; I hear your requests for coaching, but I’m not sure how to listen to you.  What are you up to?

Very provocative – “I don’t know how to listen to you”  I don’t think we think of that very often – that how we speak conditions how we’re heard.  So how can I speak in a way that creates the way I want to be heard?  This is particularly pertinent because I think my main issue is mastering the three kinds of attention:  getting attention, keeping it, having people act on it.  And I see that what comes first is communicating so that you’ll hear the way I want you to hear.

So before I say that, I need to create the context for my words.  Okay, I’ve told you my context, the ‘why’ I speak, the ‘background conversation.’  Is that enough?  Yes, it is – but will you remember it tomorrow?  How about tomorrow’s new listeners?  Do I have to continue to create context?  Yes!!

So – one of my initial projects for 2008 is to reinvent my signature line.  Here’s how I want to be listened to:  What I’m about is having a world of spiritual fulfillment, social justice in a sustainable environment.  And what I do is support people to achieve these things in their own lives and the lives of their communities.  So I ask you – how would you invent a signature that speaks that?